Marriage happens everywhere.
Whatever society you come across there is going to be marriage in some
form or another. By extension, there are
weddings everywhere. And nothing brings
out the traditional and ritualistic like a wedding. It is the joining of two lives together, so
the event can be fraught with bad luck, bad omens, and bad manners. Best to be on the safe side by participating
in any and all superstitions that ward off the bad juju.
In Sunjata, the traditional oral epic of the Mande People,
this adherence to the old ways is given an origin. In a passage describing the meeting of
Sunjata’s parents the wedding traditions of the culture are explained and given
purpose. Sogolon Conde, Sunjata’s future
mother, has been cursed by her sister.
Her legs are twisted ad her head is bald, but she is still the most
powerful sorceress around. Before
Sogolon came the Manden traditions was that a bride would walk into her future
husbands hut. But her twisted feet
stirred up too much dust. This made the procession of sister brides behind her
complain. The co wives picked up Sogolon
and carried her into the village, singing as they went. After three trials with the co-wives and
three trials with her husband Sogolon concedes that Maghan Konfara is her
husband. She does this through the
ritual of the Kola nuts. “The ten kola
nuts that are given to the women,/ It was Sogolon who first put them into
water,/ It is the woman who is supposed to put the kola in water,/And then hand
it to her husband./ …/She went and knelt in front of Maghan Konfara/ She
said “He is my married Husband” (Norton
1538). Food is often a part of marriage
traditions.
The small part seen in the marriage ceremony often represents
a life of plenty in the future. In
Western culture the most obvious example is the wedding cake. There are many traditions surrounding the
cake, but one that is becoming increasingly rare has to do with unmarried guest
taking a piece of the cake home. It’s
said that if a person places a piece of the cake under their pillow, he or she
will dream of their future spouse. Not
bad for a confection.
This is one of the sweeter traditions, and has little to do
with some of the more…eccentric customs discovered in my internet search. In France they make married couples eat out
of toilets, in Scotland they cover the bride to be in fish heads and spoiled
milk before her bachelorette party, and in Nothern Borneo they don’t allow the
married couple to go to the bathroom at all for 72 hours before wedding. So in comparison, the tradition is more
“quaint” than “terrifyingly antiquated and related to the subjugation and loss
of status caused by marriage”. The worst
that comes out of this tradition is laundry.
Speaking of, I guess this superstition came about when the traditional
wedding cake was fruit cake- which is very dense, and would not have made such
a mess.
There are a lot of
traditions surrounding the wedding cake.
The three tiered cake comes from when the bride and groom had to kiss
over the cake as it was raised higher and higher. There is a Southern American tradition of
groom’s cake, most often chocolate. The
bride used to do the cake cutting alone, as a sign of her first act as
hostess. Most of these traditions are
still with us, in one form or another.
The cake under the pillow has fallen into disfavor, becoming an old
wives tale and a children’s game. Much
like peeling an apple into one long strip and throwing it over your shoulder to
find the first letter of your intended’s name, no one really thinks it will
work. I had heard of this tradition
before, but mostly in romance novels and fairy tales. There is a common variation of having to pass
the cake through a ruby ring before it can work, but this could be the
exaggeration of an author. But the
tradition still holds true to the idea that food is important in a
wedding. In every culture, from the
Mande to the English, food at a wedding represents plenty for the future. And everyone looks to the future at a
wedding.
Works Cited
Conrad,
David C., Djobba Kamara and Lansana Magassouba. Sunjata: A West African Epic.
The Norton Anthology of World Literature: New York: W.W. Norton and
Company, 2013. 1517-1576. Print.